There haven’t been many books I’ve come across, geared toward women, that I think apply to all women. May be a few by Elyse Fitpatrick, but that’s about it. Most books for women are geared toward marriage, singleness, motherhood, etc. This new book from Moody Publishers by Trillia Newbell (who works for the ERLC) is one book that I would highly recommend to every single woman to read.
Why? Because we all fear. We may not like to admit we fear – but we all do. I will post my official review later, but suffice it to say that Trillia states her case and successfully writes about it – and points us to the gospel in all things with this book. I want to interact personally with this book here.
I don’t think I would ever consider myself a fearful person – until I got married. I think the closeness to other people brings that out – because there is more a fear of loss. Before I got married I lived by myself in my own apt, I moved gladly around to different countries, I was actually quite independent – though I did have close relationships. Now, I hate it when my mister is gone and its just me in the house with my two littles. I have trouble falling asleep and I have to quote verses to myself in order to calm my heart.
My biggest struggle is fear of man. I think I’ve known this tendency since I was little – but not until I came more into a relationship with Christ did I fully understand my need for salvation in this area. A pastor recommended an Ed Welch book for me to read about 10 years ago. So convicting – but so filled with hope that God has a special plan for our lives so we don’t have to be chained to sin in this area.
That’s what Trillia does in every area! She lists out many fears that women struggle with ranging from tragedy, the future, to physical appearance and sexual intimacy. In every single chapter – I was convicted by some of her thoughts (totally based in Scripture backed up by personal experience – not the other way around) – and I was placed gently in the hands of the Almighty who doesn’t want me to fear but wants me to trust completely in Him.
I see this in my marriage a lot. This idea of us being consumed with the opinions of others (pg 24). I always want to know what my mister thinks of my outfit, the food I cooked, etc. I want him to realize that I cleaned this or that and am always looking for his approval.
Right now my mister and I are not in a place of surety – meaning I don’t think we are going to be in this place in life for a long time so we feel kinda in limbo. So, when I don’t have a vision for the future and don’t know how long it will be till we see that vision – its scary. This book has taught me that I don’t trust God enough in this area. I like to be in control.
I read the chapter on appearance (am I pretty enough) the wknd I finally lost all the baby weight. I was so excited. I mean my second son just turned 20 months old. Its been a long time coming. Newbell reminded me that while I should take care of my body because God desires me to – I shouldn’t focus on my looks to an extreme amount nor should I find my identity in the numbers on the scale.
Giveaway: Moody has graciously said they would give a copy of this book to a reader. Here is how you enter: what one verse to do you go to when you are fearful? You can answer in the blog comments or on a social media account of your choice. Just make sure I know about it. I will choose a winner on Sunday night.
Trillia – thank you. This book was very helpful and was restorative to my soul.