One of the pieces of advice I give new brides (or brides-to-be) is more than anything in marriage (from a human standpoint) – study your husband. With all the marriage, sex, and relationship books out there, knowing what pleases your husband (and isn’t a sin) is a great thing that you can bring to the every day life!
Here are some things I know about my husband after 2 years of marriage:
1. He doesn’t like clutter.
2. He is a sharp dresser.
3. He likes good shoes (think Johnston & Murphy).
4. He is more of an introvert than I am.
5. He loves Jesus and pursues the Word and the God who wrote it.
6. He likes his sleep.
7. He likes it when I put in my contacts instead of wearing my glasses.
Little things – right? Right! But, those 7 things may not apply to your husband. That is why you have to know your husband. I was told so many different things about what men like when I was engaged. I didn’t care and still don’t care what other men like. There is only one man on this earth that I regard his opinion to the utmost: my husband.
Gloria Furman writes this in Glimpses of Grace:
“We ought to take pains to study Christ. We study Christ because we’ve been saved for the purpose of being transformed into his image,
and in our beholding, the work of transformation occurs.” (pg 68)
How do you study Christ? The main way is to look at the Word of God – which all of it actually points to Christ. We are reading The Jesus Storybook Bible to Little Buddy at night. I love how she makes all the stories point to the Great Hero. All of them, even OT ones.
How can you know what you are supposed to be looking like if you don’t know Christ?
How can we know Christ if we don’t study Christ?